Issue 43: Feeling Unworthy
THE LEAP
BY QUANTUM ORANGE
GROW, EXPAND & EVOLVE
ISSUE 43 | FEELING UNWORTHY
Each week The (Quantum) Leap summarises a key aspect of success into what you need to Think, Feel and Do to create a personal shift.
THINK
Do you recall being sent to your room when you were a child because you’d been wrong, done something bad or failed at a task?
As the memory comes to you, notice the feelings that accompany it…
How did you feel about yourself and the situation at the time?
For most of us, the awful conclusion was a sequence of feelings that looks like this:
They don’t love me.
Therefore I must be unlovable.
Therefore I am unworthy.
Unfortunately, that sequence establishes a link between the original behaviour and the feeling of being unworthy. Because that feeling is general and somewhat vague, it’s rare that we identify the link.
What does happen for most of us is that we try to undo the link without really understanding its origin. We unconsciously go out and achieve as many ‘rights’, ‘goods’ and ‘successes’ as possible.
In essence, we get hooked on being successful, in one form or another, as a means of establishing our worth as human beings.
FEEL
What we fail to understand is that no amount of success will make any difference to how we feel inside.
This success addiction is actually a reverse failure mechanism. Its effect is to blind us to what is really going on. As we use the success ‘drug,’ we notice a lack of the satisfaction and fulfilment that it was intended to provide, but we usually don’t see that the outside-in process proves useless.
We have no idea that we are spiritually malnourished. The dawning awareness that we feel empty, regardless of our success, causes most people to come to the conclusion that they’re on the right track, but not far enough down it yet. So we keep it up!
The problem is, by its very existence, this set up stops us from understanding we are more than the things we do…that inside each of us is a person who is perfect, loveable and complete. When you can connect with that part of yourself - happiness, fulfilment and self-worth will come easily.
DO
Bring to mind a situation in which you have judged yourself to be unworthy or you have felt unworthy.
- What was the situation?
- What thoughts occurred to you about yourself?
- What was the decision you made about yourself as a result of that situation?
- What feelings do those thoughts and decisions bring up?
Question the truth of the thoughts and decisions you made about yourself. For example, just because you failed to learn guitar does not mean YOU are a failure. All it means is you don’t currently know how to play a guitar.
- How would you talk to a loved one about the same circumstance?
- Do you wish to carry these thoughts and feelings of unworthiness forward with you - or are you ready to let them go?
- When you let them go, what feelings will you choose to replace them with?
Repeat the above exercise whenever feelings of unworthiness arise, no matter what the cause.
Treat yourself with the same love and compassion you would your own child and you will quickly see that you are perfect, just as you are.
