Issue 2: Relationships & Happiness
THE LEAP
BY QUANTUM ORANGE
GROW, EXPAND & EVOLVE
ISSUE 2 | RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS
Welcome to our newest innovation.
Each week The (Quantum) Leap summarises a key aspect of success into what you need to Think, Feel and Do to create a personal shift.
For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.
~ Rainer Maria Rilke
THINK
Relationships, in all forms, are a vital aspect of a happy and fulfilling life.
How connected are you?
How have you been turning up in your relationships?
Are your relationships a place you go to give, or to take?
How can you nurture your close connections this week?
FEEL
Your primary relationship will help you to find yourself through someone else. Your partner will, without a doubt, bring up all of your unresolved issues. You either deal with what’s going on for you and learn from it, or fight with your partner by making them wrong and keeping your spirit small.
Being in relationship is a spiritual journey. You can learn a lot about your partner and you can learn a lot from them, but if you pay attention you’ll learn mostly about yourself.
Self-actualisation is achieved when we realise ourselves as seen through the eyes of another. When we truly understand this, we transform how we feel about ourselves, our partner and our relationship.
So, the next time you look into the eyes of your partner, pause, and ask yourself the question: When you love how does it feel?
Remember this: everything that I see in you is within me.
DO
“The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when someone asked me what I thought, and attended to my answer.” Henry David Thoreau
One of the the most effective ways to strengthen your relationships is to turn up and really listen.
Pick a relationship you’d like to put some extra care into, make a time to see that person and start asking questions. Ditch all of the distractions (put your phone and theirs out of reach!) and listen with an open heart.
Be present. Respond thoughtfully. Communicate.
It may sound simple, but so many people allow themselves to get ‘too busy’ for this kind of genuine connection with another human being. We flit through our days doing four things at once, not fully present to any one of them because we’re madly rushing for the end of a to-do list.
Authentic connection is one of the things we most desperately crave and we need it with more than just our life partner. So, make the time to ‘turn up’ in one of your relationships this week - we guarantee both you and the other person will leave the exchange feeling uplifted by the experience.
Read. Watch. Listen.
READ
Want an extra boost for your relationship? Check out this short article on improving your communication.
WATCH
Here’s a thought-provoking Ted Talk on the secret to maintaining desire in a long term relationship delivered by psychotherapist Esther Perel.
LISTEN
No matter how great your relationships, conflict will occur at some point so you need to know how to handle it healthily. Click here to download some great info on conflict resolution.
